Written by Freelancing Writer and Editor : Olayinka Sodiq
Big or small, there are quite amazing lots of things you can do to get your sex life back on track, Your sexual well-being goes hand in hand with your overall mental, physical, and emotional health. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle, communicating with your partner, making yourself available to some of the many excellent self-help materials on the market, and just having fun can help you weather tough times, and don’t equate love with sexual performance, focus on maintaining emotional and physical intimacy in your relationship.
But what is sex?
Sex; The word can evoke a kaleidoscope of emotions. From love, excitement, and tenderness to longing, anxiety, and disappointment, Sex is just another hormone-driven bodily function designed to perpetuate the species.
Of course, that narrow view underestimates the complexity of the human sexual response. Your experiences and expectations help shape your sexuality, Your understanding of yourself as a sexual being, your thoughts about what constitutes a satisfying sexual connection, and your relationship with your partner are key factors in your ability to develop and maintain a fulfilling sex life.
Find the right time to talk and avoid criticizing. There are two places sexual conversations hold, the bedroom and the ones you have elsewhere. It’s appropriate to tell your partner what feels good in the middle of lovemaking, and also to wait until you’re in a more neutral setting to discuss larger issues. Avoid criticizing. Give positive terms, such as, “I love it when you kiss my lips softly that way,” rather than being negative. Approach a sexual issue as a problem to be solved together rather than an exercise your partner has to solve.
Talk to your partner about changes in your body and be honest. If menopause has made your vagina dry, hot flashes are keeping you up at night, or some disease, it’s important to talk to your partner about these things. It’s imperative he knows what the problem is rather than interprets these physical changes as lack of interest and is honest about it; thoughts of protecting your partner’s feelings by faking an orgasm will not end well, in reality, you’re starting down a slippery slope. As challenging as it is to talk about any sexual problem, the difficulty level skyrockets once the issue is under years of lies, hurt, and resentment.
Educate yourself, give yourself time and use lubrication. Amazing collections of materials are available for every type of sexual problem, pick out a few resources that apply to you, use them to help you and your partner become better informed about the problem. Give yourself time. As you age, sexual responses slow down; couples can improve chances of success by finding an interruption-free and comfortable setting for sex. Also, realize that the physical changes in your body mean that you’ll need more time to get aroused and reach orgasm. Use lubrication, lubricating liquids, and gels salvage vaginal dryness that begins in perimenopause; they can be used freely to avoid painful sex.
Maintain physical affection, practice touching and try different positions. You could be tensed or upset about the problem; engaging in kissing and cuddling is essential for maintaining an emotional and physical bond. Practice touching The sensate techniques that sex therapists use can help you re-establish physical intimacy without feeling pressured, tell your partner to touch you in a manner that he or she would like to be touched, this gives you a view of the pressure, from gentle to firm. Try different positions. Developing different sexual positions not only adds interest to lovemaking, but it also helps overcome problems, the increased stimulation to the G-spot that occurs when a man enters his partner from behind can help the woman reach orgasm.
Write down your fantasies, do Kegel exercises and try to relax. It helps you explore possible activities that might be a turn-on for you or your partner, think of an experience or a movie that aroused you and then share your memory with your partner. Do Kegel exercises. Everyone can improve sexual fitness by exercising their pelvic floor muscles. Tighten the muscle you would use if you were trying to stop urine in midstream, hold the contraction for two or three seconds, then release. Repeat ten times. Try to do five sets a day. These exercises can be done anywhere, at home, while driving, sitting at your desk, or standing in a checkout line. Try to relax. Do something soothing together before having sex, play a game or a nice outdoor dinner.
Don’t give up and maintain good health. Sometimes all your efforts seem fruitless don’t give up hope. Visit your doctor for effective treatments, Maintain good health because your sexual well-being goes hand in hand with your overall mental, physical, and emotional health, the same healthy habits you rely on to keep your body in shape can also shape up your sex life.
Be adventurous, creative, playful and sensual. If you’ve never had sex on the living room floor or in a secluded spot in the woods; it’s time to try it, try exploring erotic books and films. Be sensual. Create an environment for lovemaking that appeals to all five of your senses, concentrate on the feel of silk against your skin, the soft focus of candlelight, the beat of a jazz tune and the taste of ripe, juicy fruit. Be playful. Take a bubble bath together—the warm, cozy feeling you have when you get out of the tub can be a great lead-in to sex. Tickle. Laugh. Be creative. If you make love on Saturday night, change the schedule and choose Sunday morning instead. Experiment with new positions and activities. Try sexy lingerie if you never have before.
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