Written by Freelancing Writer and Editor : Olayinka Sodiq
Sit and think of something you wanted in your life but yet to accomplish it, whether it’s because you took a shot and failed spectacularly or haven’t gotten around to it, or you are too timid to go for it. Perhaps you’re at that point right now. Some are better at it than others, and then there are those who string along tough moments throughout their life like the toilet paper which is always in my toilet. Some have money problems, relationship problems, and some have anxiety issues, etc.
The principles of failure are thoughts and characters that hold you down in one area of your life will stalk you in other areas of your life as well. When life confronts us with big opportunities, most of us tend to fuck up. And then we come up with a lot of strategies to escape the pain and pressure embedded in reaching for our goals and dreams. Here are a few most common strategies for reluctance
YOU FAIL BECAUSE YOU’RE scared TO STAND OUT AMONG THE CROWD
Society is in a conspiracy against the independence and self-reliance of every one of its members. People don’t like it when other people do something that makes them feel different, insecure or when other people change. The process of pushing ourselves to attain success threatens the complacency of those around us; these people lash out because your success makes them question themselves which is difficult for most to handle.
If you want to do something amazing and incredible, something that stands you out above the lots, then you need to be comfortable being different from the rest and that is the simple fact of life. People will think you’re selfish, weird, crazy, irresponsible, arrogant, stupid, disrespectful, obnoxious, insecure, ugly, shallow, etc. The people very close to you will become the harshest. If you’re not confident with your ideas and desires or have weak boundaries, then there is no chance you are making it very far.
YOU’RE NOT PERSISTENT ENOUGH and lack humility
Most of us give up on goals and dreams we’re passionate about too quickly. And everyone who’s been a success has a tale of perseverance and struggle to share. According to elders, nothing worth having comes easy; you have to be persistent as persistence conquers resistance. Too many people accomplish very little and yet regard themselves, experts. Humility is acknowledging and knowing what you don’t know. But self-made millionaires, legitimate people, the ones who made it to the peaks of their industries, they downplayed their successes, they often admitted they do not have an answer, they regularly point out weaknesses and how they needed to learn more. It does not look to a coincidence.
YOU FAIL TO build NETWORK AND STRONG RELATIONSHIPS
Whether it’s insecurity or plain arrogance or obsessiveness, do not have trouble letting people influence what you are passionate about, hesitance to reach out and connect with others who could help will lead to missed opportunities. Isolation can lead to going broke, getting depressed. Creating wealth hangs on the ability to meet connect and meet with them in a meaningful manner.
YOU FAIL BECAUSE YOU’D ARGUE RATHER that heeding advice
Try to be right instead of good; you need to be more invested in heeding advice from people who want to help rather than arguing your point of view. Arguing means you’ve effectively given up. I’m not saying people should always take advice from everybody, but accept feedbacks whether it’s relevant or not, and not argue your way into you believing you were right all along. Extremely insecure and intelligent people seem to suffer from this problem; their intellect is a defense mechanism to protect their ego.
YOU DO not TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR WHAT HAPPENS IN YOUR LIFE
It means having-an-excuse-for-everything. To fix your problem, you must have power over them, and you cannot have that power until you take responsibility for them. There are a lot of situations that come up in life which are insurmountable and unfair, but there’s nothing you can do about it. It’s easy to blame your problems on some external factor, to insist that it wasn’t your fault and that you could have done nothing to salvage it, yes it is not your fault but you have to stand up to the situation, take responsibility and push your limits.
YOU FAIL BECAUSE YOU lack true passion or WON’T BELIEVE IT’S Possible
The mind’s beliefs about possibilities, level of effort and expectation of success come from the body’s behavior. People who have inaccurate positive beliefs about their abilities do better than people with negative beliefs about their abilities. People who overestimate their abilities are capable of getting off their ass and try. And when you try to learn from your failures, you will lead yourself to success. People who lack the passion for investing in a project giving up quickly. While others lose interest. It undermines the motivation required to attain success; many people are terrified to invest their time and energy into projects because of the fear of failure; they question their self-worth and competence.
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