Written by Freelancing Writer and Editor : Olayinka Sodiq
A lot of people criticize how and what our education system teaches. I’m neither a teacher nor expert, but according to research, it became clearer what sorts of influences are good and unhealthy for a growing up kid, thoughts about school and those writing assignments come to the forefront. During our childhood and adolescence days, we discover how to relate to other people and the world at large, where we learn the meaning of success and how it can be achieved. It’s where we establish our identities and form our first values. Although during this period, school is not the only influence, peer-group and parents are more influential, yet school remains a major force. When you view school as a place where we learned about ourselves and not as a place where we acquired information, you discover some lessons we picked up without realizing it.
YOU LEARNED THAT SUCCESS COMES FROM THE APPROVAL OF OTHERS
We live in a world where society is more concerned about appearing to be something important instead of actually being something important. This is because we grow up being punished and rewarded based on the approval of other people’s standards and not our own. While growing up, it is rarely communicated that the whys of life are more important than what is of life. Everything you’re taught and told to do is to earn the approval of others around you. It’s to satisfy either your teacher’s or someone else standards. While growing up how many times you ever heard the complaint, this is pointless “I don’t even know what I like to do, but I am sure I’m not happy.” Our system is not purpose-based but performance-based. It does not teach passion but mimicry.
During the past few decades, concerned teachers and parents have tried to fix this “self-esteem” problem by making it easier for kids to feel successful. But it makes the problem worse. Kids are given that approval without actually doing anything to earn it! The personal purpose has to be introduced into the education system at some point. The problem is that everybody’s why is personal which is impossible to scale especially when teachers are underpaid and overworked.
YOU LEARNED THAT FAILURE IS A SOURCE OF SHAME
Mastering the art of getting it right on the first try is how companies, schools reward you. They tell you what to do, and then you get it done. And when the act of doing, creating something new and innovative, stepping out into the unknown becomes a source of shame and a major problem, innovation requires failure. The comfort with failure allows people to take calculated risks and realize opportunities where others weren’t paying attention to. Failure helps us learn. The only way to be a better job applicant is to have failed job applications. We cannot become better partners without failed relationships. Failure is the only path to growth, yet society believes that failure is shameful and always unacceptable. But life does not work that way at all.
YOU LEARNED TO DEPEND ON AUTHORITY
There’s a tendency of fear for most of us not having someone to give us directions on what to do. The process of being told what to do brings comfort, not feeling entirely responsible for your fate and following the game plan. Obedience and dependence on authority was one essential societal value 100-200 years ago. It was necessary to thrive in society.
Blind obedience kills creative thinking and causes a lot more problems than it solves. That doesn’t mean authority serves no purpose and always harmful. Authority exists and necessary for a well-functioning and progressive society, but we deserve to be capable of choosing the authority in our lives. And depriving kids the ability to discover that fact for themselves could be the biggest failure of all.
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