Written by Freelancing Writer and Editor : Olayinka Sodiq
- YOU DON’T RESPECT YOURSELF
The admiration and respect you receive from yourself are proportional to the respect you receive from others. Taking care of yourself emotionally, mentally, and physically means others will take the prospect of taking care of you emotionally, mentally, and physically. Try this for a month and see what happens; take good care of yourself, eat and exercise well, plan ahead and work hard, sleep well at night, eradicate bad habits and desperation, speak about your ideas and expect nothing in return, do not take rejection personally, understand that the world is not about ranking or competition, find compatibility.
- YOU HAVE ABSURD EXPECTATIONS
The flavors of delusional expectations come down to perfection; people who want perfection and expect other people to acknowledge perfection in them. Some people make the mistake of assuming that any argument or disagreement means a future of misery and deathly incompatibility, so they end the relationship while some expect total submission and beyond, they expect the opposite sex to beg for attention and affection and become angry when they do not. Intimacy and romance are determined by people who have x complementary and disagreement imperfections to each other. We are all imperfect so learn to accept and appreciate other people imperfections and improve upon your own.
- YOU LACK INTIMACY SKILLS
Too many people are great “on paper” daters. I mean people who go on dates regularly, they’re attentive, attractive, interesting skills, have good jobs and hobbies, they laugh in the right places, make the dinner conversations, talk about their families, lives, careers, and aspirations, and yet nobody sticks around. Finding a partner and dating is an emotional process; people fancy the surface behavior but never connect and engage with the emotional reality. Intimacy generation requires vulnerability and emotional investment, it means exposing yourself, sharing values and opinions that may generate rejections, and it requires taking risks and being bold going after your desires.
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